Congruency

Carl Rogers coined the term congruency to describe a match between your inner thoughts and your outer behaviour and what you expose to the world around you. Congruency is integral to form a real relationship with someone, and it's also something that i feel a lot of people struggle with. In high school, for example, I feel like congruency barely exists. Everyone is putting a sort of persona/facade in order to portray themselves in a way that matches their idea of an 'ideal' self. When one achieves congruency, one achieves a certain piece of mind. Throughout university, we struggle with constructing an identity. I don't know if it's a just a phase, but I feel that i've achieved a higher state of congruency over the last few days and it really is a great feeling.

A little time off.

You know the common saying, "you don't know what you've got until it's gone"? Well, there's a whole other end of the spectrum. It's hard to put it in a perfect statement but what I'm getting at is you don't know how much you need something until you experience it and realize this 'thing' can really make a tremendous difference in your life. I'm talking about something simple on my side -- time. I took 3 days off of work and I can say with full conviction that the past 72 hours have been the most exhilarating, refreshing, and happy that I've had in the last few months. I had no idea how much I needed this time to truly recuperate from the last few months of busy-ness, and I've taken note that I need to really stop myself at times and take a moment to breathe.

thoughtful quote

Anyone who wants to know the human psyche will learn next to nothing from experimental psychology. He would be better advised to abandon exact science, put away his scholar's gown, bid farewell to his study, and wander with human heart throught the world. There in the horrors of prisons, lunatic asylums and hospitals, in drab suburban pubs, in brothels and gambling-hells, in the salons of the elegant, the Stock Exchanges, socialist meetings, churches, revivalist gatherings and ecstatic sects, through love and hate, through the experience of passion in every form in his own body, he would reap richer stores of knowledge than text-books a foot thick could give him, and he will know how to doctor the sick with a real knowledge of the human soul. -- Carl Jung

morning sunlight

Walking up my street in the morning after a night of partying downtown. The sun is shining brightly, the accompanying autumn chill is a perfect breeze when wrapped up in a warm leather jacket. With every step, I pass a tree looking vastly different than the one before. A full spectrum of reds, yellows, greens, and browns. I take a sip of my foamy peppermint mocha, trying to absorb the entirety of this moment. Autumn is so beautiful.