Carl Rogers coined the term congruency to describe a match between your inner thoughts and your outer behaviour and what you expose to the world around you. Congruency is integral to form a real relationship with someone, and it's also something that i feel a lot of people struggle with. In high school, for example, I feel like congruency barely exists. Everyone is putting a sort of persona/facade in order to portray themselves in a way that matches their idea of an 'ideal' self. When one achieves congruency, one achieves a certain piece of mind. Throughout university, we struggle with constructing an identity. I don't know if it's a just a phase, but I feel that i've achieved a higher state of congruency over the last few days and it really is a great feeling.
Well, congratulations, because I don't think that's easy to do, and surely not all the time. I find myself swaying somewhere in between some days. Being all of me isn't always pretty, so where does congruency fall where etiquette or diplomacy is required?
ReplyDeleteMaybe it's all just a matter of balance.